Marriage is not an easy thing. You can no longer choose to do as you please, as you did when you were single. You try to live as you did, but then you cause problems with your spouse. When the honeymoon phase is definitely over, you may be thinking that you made the wrong choice in marrying this person. Maybe you did, or maybe your marriage needs more work. In a country where half of all first marriages end in divorce, and three quarters of all second and succeeding marriages end in divorce, can your marriage really be saved? Marriage counseling can help, but it all depends on a series of factors in your marriage. Those factors are as follows.
Did You Marry Your Best Friend?
Successful married couples describe their marriage as one where they married their best friends. They love each other, trust each other, are not resentful toward each other for anything, and feel content to the point of complacency in their marriages. If you do not trust your spouse, despise them for even the smallest of things, and/or resent them for things you can no longer do that you once did, you did not marry your best friend.
How Long Did You Know Each Other Before Marrying?
It should not surprise you to know that this is the first question marriage counselors ask. Couples who knew each other for years before choosing to marry have stronger relationships that last longer. Couples that marry on a Las Vegas whim do not. If you knew your spouse for less than two years before you were married, you did not really know each other at all, which resulted in discovering a lot of unpleasant or unsavory things about each other after you were married. This may not hold the two of you together, but stranger relationships have lasted longer. You can try to work out these differences in couples therapy.
Can You Get Past Infidelity?
Infidelity is a leading cause of divorce, but couples who feel that they still love each other may be able to work through it and get past it. There are often underlying issues in the marriage that lead a partner to stray, and when it is understood what these causes are, couples can choose to work on those issues to heal their marriage. Forgiveness is hard, but it can be done.
Seek out the help of a marriage counselor for more advice and information.
Counseling can be a great help with many aspects of your life. Whether you are struggling with your work life, personal life or love life, talking with someone who can help you wrap your head around the way that you are feeling can help you find balance and create a better way of life for yourself. Our blog will show you several ways that a counselor can help you with the different areas of your life. You will also learn a few tips that can help you improve things on your own and information to help you know what to expect when you go to a counselor for the first time.